Feeling Slightly Blind

So I found out Friday that I am nearsighted.
I knew something was up when I started being unable to see the small print for the weather warnings if I was more then 4 ft from the TV and I couldn't read the tiny print on some of the video games I play.
I also noticed that if I was playing like a first person shooter game I would get a headache pretty fast and motion sick which I never used to.

I kinda figured I was going to need at least reading glasses.

So I scheduled my first eye appointment (ever).
HB still couldn't believe I had never gone to an Optometrist before. I always had perfect eye sight before and my parents never took me.

I had no idea they did so much! The glaucoma test was pretty crazy with those puffs of air right into your eye.

I had no idea that my vision was as bad as it is until they put that giant thing with the adjustable lenses on me.
The Dr flipped one switch and holy COW everything was so much more defined! I could see without squinting!

I have to wait 2 weeks before my glasses will be in and boy am I feeling blind right now.
Its going to be weird wearing them but I'm ok with it. I don't view as I'm getting old at all.
read a TON and I draw a lot and doing Henna involves some very tiny details.
I know I've given my eyes a lot of work and for not needing glasses 27 years isn't too bad.

Mad Moxxi and The Wedding Day Massacre (review)

So a couple weeks ago when it came out around Valentines Day HB downloaded the latest DLC for Borderlands 2 for us to play together.

Mad Moxxi and The Wedding Day Massacre.

First off I have to admit that I love Mad Moxxi. I think she is a hilarious character with a pretty unique outfit. I love the attitude they gave her and how she seems to have her finger in every pie. Her sexual slip ups are pretty funny too.

This DLC was pretty short honestly compared to the others like Bunkers and Bad Asses but I still enjoyed it.

The fact the she is related one of the red neck clans is pretty funny on its own and that she thinks a love match will fix it is ridiculous.
The Bride and Groom are 2 Goliath one from the Hodunk's and the other a Zaford.
Moxxi has you run around gathering Love Potion ingredients including a Goliath Baby lol
That was interesting.
HB discovered on accident that the holes in the Mountains are actually Leprechaun holes!
He was grabbing ammo when a little cursing Leprechaun came bolting out. Those little things are fast!

There is one part that we haven't finished yet which is the different elemental Threshers.

You spike the wedding punch with the love potion and then the Goliath bride and groom decide to kiss. They take off their helmets and their creepy little heads kiss THEN they immediately start Raging.
The first time around it went fairly easy but we discovered if you go back you can fight them a 2nd time!
This time if you don't kill them close enough together they can revive each other!
And each time they do they LEVEL up! When we finally managed to kill them they had each reached God-liath.

All in all not a bad addition to the awesomeness that is Borderlands 2. 

Omigawd! (sexting gone wrong) swearing

So I know people are pretty divided on "sexting" some do it, others are against it; sometimes for a good reason.

HB and I sext because we rarely get any alone time unless we're going to bed and then 2 nights out of 7 I'm going to be alone.

SO we sext. I think it helps build the anticipation for when we actually get time to be intimate. Plus its kinda fun ;)

Anyways here is my story of sexting gone wrong that could have gone way worse then it did.

This evening like many Sundays we went to my Dad's for a family dinner.
Afterwards I was chilling in the kitchen talking to my Dad while HB and Kai were playing around in the living room watching TV.
HB has tonight off and not much homework so I seized the opportunity to send HB a naughty text.
I have a pic on my phone of me giving HB head.
I thought I would send it to HB with a winky emoji saying "tonight"

Well I forgot the last person I had texted was my Dad.  O.o
(you can tell where this is going)

Oh my gawd ya'll I sent the picture to my DAD!
I would swear on a stack of bibles I had switched it to HB's name but NOOPE
it said "Sending to ICE DAD" Fuuuuuucking hell

I immediately panicked but tried to hide it from my parents. Because I knew if they asked what was up I was going to start laughing hysterically and tell them. I suck hard core at lying or keeping anything from my parents.

I snatched up my Dad's phone without thinking.
He's like what are you doing with my phone? I don't grab yours.

The first thing I could think of was to tell him "OH I accidentally sent you an emoji meant for Moua (my bestie). You don't have a smart phone so I wanted to see if it would show up"

Thank sweet baby jeebus that he is slightly cell phone inept and he believed me. That text came and oh Christ on a Cracker you could see EVERY detail.
I immediately deleted every trace of that picture and stopped sweating.

That probably would have been one of the most AWKWARD moments of my life! 

Oh But I like CHEESE!

So I have recently discovered that I am Lactose Intolerant.
It started during my short pregnancy this past summer. I couldn't eat anything with Dairy in it without terrible stomach pains and gas.
Well after the miscarriage things eased off so I just figured it was pregnancy induced and didn't think anymore about it.

My dairy cravings come and go so I can go a month without any cheese or milk and then suddenly its all I want!

Well come October I noticed that my stomach was bothering me quite a bit and that I was super bloated all the time!
I cycled through all the causes I could think of and tried a couple elimination diets (gluten, beef, no broccoli) Nada still bloated and uncomfortable.
While I was happy I made some healthy changes to our diets and I get to eat broccoli again I was still perplexed on what was going on.

Then one night HB ordered Toppers Pizza for dinner with extra cheese.
Omigawd I thought I was going to die!
I only made it through one piece and I had to use the bathroom IMMEDIATELY!
I felt like I was camped in there all night! My behind was kinda sore too lol

HB and I sat down to figure out what I had ate that day that he hadn't that would do that to me.
We came up with zilch!
He had ate everything I had that day and he was fine.
Suddenly the light bulb went on. DING!
Lactose.

So over the next couple days I cut out all dairy products (which was so HARD!)
My stomach stopped hurting, I didn't have anymore gas, and I went down a pant size and a half!
I have discovered the miracle pill Lactaid though.
That thing is AMAZING!
When I can't completely control my dairy craving I can pop one of those beauties and eat some ice cream or have a regular yogurt and I'm golden.

I has been so weird adjusting to this!
Once I had stopped all dairy consumption now even the smallest trace can make me miserable. So I make sure to carry some of those wonder pills in my purse and wallet for just in-case.
I have had some wicked dairy cravings too.
I took a pill and chugged half a pint of chocolate milk yesterday. Savage style lol
We live in the dairy State so I think we're going to buying stock in the Lactaid pills :)

I'm now experimenting with Almond and Coconut Milk as a replacement and working on my recipes that include dairy.

Wish me luck!

Apparently "Wedding" is a dirty word!

So we're getting married this October.
I've been working on planning this wedding for 2 years.
We have everything covered EXCEPT for DJ and I'm still working on the food.

It is absolutely ridiculous how much those 2 things cost.
Sweet baby jeebus its like you mention "Wedding" and the price doubles.
The next time I have to talk to caterer I'm just going to say "Huge Party"

It blows my mind when I hear how much people have spent on their weddings. I know people that have even taken out a loan to afford the wedding of their "Dreams" and there wasn't a whole lot to it lol
I refuse for us to go into debt just to get married.

My other issue at the moment is that I absolutely HATE my dress. I bought it over a year ago before we had to postpone our wedding for the 2nd time when my Grandpa's brain cancer came back.
I have looked at it almost everyday for the last year and I detest it.
I can't believe we spent money on it.
I'm getting ready to post it on Ebay for sale and then I can put the money from that towards a different dress. 

I'm trying to keep it a stress free, fun wedding but this shit is getting on my nerves.

UGH Why does it have to be so HARD! 

My 6 tips for a happier relationship (revised)

I recently read a blog post called Top 10 Rules every marriage should live by...gay or straight. 

It is a decent blog post with some very good points but the writer I feel could have branched out more on the rules plus some of them strike me as "No brainers." Things like "Don't take your spouse for granted" (which was 9&10) and "Discuss life goals often". Also "Never threaten to leave or throw the "D" word around casually" DUH.

I know that some people don't think things like that are important but seriously I think the majority of people know those 3 are not something you joke with or mess around with... period.

Here is my revised list since I found quite a bit of fault with the other one.
(NOTE: I know everyone is different and that what works for us might not work for someone else. Take what you can from it and be happy :) )

 1. No Secrets
 
There are absolutely no secrets between HB and I. Not even little insignificant shit secrets from HS. He is the one person I am completely and wholly honest with no matter.
You never know when something no matter how little you think it is could come back and bite you in arse.
Trying to hid your past or something about yourself isn't being true to your relationship nor is it fair to your Significant Other.

2. Talk. Talk about EVERYTHING
What I mainly mean is communicate about everything!
In this day and age with so many different ways to communicate from over the phone, texting, email, Skype, Facebook, smoke signals there really isn't an excuse for not communicating unless you're expecting the other person to become Psychic.
Make sure to talk about important things like Kids, Deal Breakers, Expectations, Future Plans, even things that you don't want to think about like what to do if something awful happens to one of you.

3. Do things together that you both enjoy...(the other blog said resist the urge to merge. Bull merge to where you're happy)
Make sure to take time to do things you both enjoy and do as much together as you want.
Just don't lose yourself in the merge. You don't want to become one of those people that if your SO is gone you don't know what to do with yourself. Honestly those people are no fun to be around.
Keep what makes you "YOU" and just season it with what you enjoy together.
Example: HB and I enjoy playing video games together but I still maintained my love for fighting games while he enjoys playing solo Strategy games.
We both enjoy reading but I like Paranormal stuff while he reads Sci Fi.
I enjoy drawing and crafts while he prefers Online Gaming and watching documentaries.

4. Don't air your dirty laundry.

My Grandma used to say this all the time when I was little and I had no clue what she was talking about. When I asked she would just say "Not to feed the gossipers". I was like 6 so still wasn't too sure on things.
Now that I'm older I understand what she was talking about. This was one of the keys to her and my grandpa making for 53 years until she passed away.
Back her day it was super easy to keep your home life private now not so much.
I've lost count of how many people I know that tell EVERYTHING on social media. They blast their partners, parents, kids, siblings, complete strangers all over Facebook, Twitter, MySpace (does anyone even use it?) etc.
They do this and then wonder why people stop talking to them, are mad at them or why they get dumped.
HB and I hardly ever fight but when we do no one knows about but us.
We do use FB and occasionally make posts about each other but they are always positive, loving posts.
Occasionally I will vent to my super close group of friends but its usually not about HB but my Mom.
I trust those ladies implicitly and know they would never gossip about me. Sometimes its good to have someone that listens but don't go broadcasting it to everyone that will listen.

5. Don't lose the intimacy. 

There is more to intimacy in a relationship than just sex.
I learned that one after Kai was born and I had a butt full of stitches (hello 4th degree tear).
Sex was not an option until close to 12 weeks had passed. I couldn't bear for HB to touch me there without tears.
It was starting to become a real issue when we decided sit down and talk about it. HB told me that what he missed more then just sex. He explained that he understood I was in pain and wasn't trying to make me feel bad or pressure me into something I wasn't ready for physically. He explained how he missed the kissing, cuddling and talking too.
It wasn't the sex, it was the intimacy.
Once we made time to cuddle while Kai was sleeping it made things so much easier and happier. We would cuddle and watch a movie or TV and just talk.
The one thing that always blows my mind is when the woman completely cuts the man off from any physical contact and then is actually shocked when he strays.
How long can you expect someone to stay in a relationship where there is no intimacy?

6. Don't forget to have FUN

While doing the every routine stuff don't forget to have fun with it. Enjoy doing even the most basic things together.
My parents split when I was 13 and have just lately started getting along. I know Kai has helped with some of it but the other thing is they're having fun whether Kai is there or not.
They've been playing lots of scrabble together (not much else to do in this polar vortex) and hosting family dinners a couple nights a week between their 2 houses.
Everything is better when you're having fun together and laughing.
So much is lost when you spend all your time being serious.

7. Remember everyone has a bad days.

No matter how upbeat or optimistic your partner is they are allowed to have bad days.
I'm so optimistic most days HB says I should have rainbows shooting out my behind lol
Someone being crabby doesn't always mean its your fault. Unless you know you did it.

We have this rule in our home for 2 reasons...

1. My period turns me into a crabby biotch
2. HB admits men have a "Time of the Month" too. 

I've learned to not take his grumpiness personally unless he tells me its my fault or its obviously my fault i.e accidental blue balling :::sheepish:::
He has also learned that sometimes I cannot help being grumpy. I'm not a morning person at ALL so occasionally that makes me crabby.
Plus he knows I do not sleep well when he's at work. I wake up to all the weird noises thinking its Kai trying to sneak attack me or something. So I'm usually kinda crabby when I get up on the weekends.

8. Praise frequently and openly
After a couple has been together for a while (2+ years) the compliments kinda drop off. Which is understandable in a sense but it also sucks because you start to feel unattractive and unappreciated.
The compliments don't have to be long flowing things just short and simple is works just fine. Like HB telling my that my butt looks hot in my yoga pants or me telling him his new beard is a pantie dropper (at least to me lol)

Guys appreciate being complimented too no matter how vehemently they try to deny it. I notice a new skip in HB's step every time I compliment him.
Make sure to do it randomly so it truly catches them by surprise and it could be the bright spot in their day.
Complimenting also lets your Other Half know that you're not taking them for granted, that you notice when they try something new whether its a new hair do, shirt or recipe.
Its the little things that matter most.


 

Fantastic! (Frozen Review)

Last week we decided to let Kai play hookie for a day. (She's in 4k for 3 hours so she didn't miss much)
Things had been kinda hectic around our house for the last month and a half.
Kai had been sick plus the holidays PLUS HB picking up a butt load of extra hours between the 3 holidays and on top of that everyone getting back in the swing of going back to school.

So we decided to take a Family day.
We packed up and went out to lunch at our favorite Japanese restaurant (yum sushi!) then we grabbed some frozen yogurt (LOVE Orange Leaf) then it was off to the movie theater to catch an early showing of Frozen :)

I had been DYING to see this movie since it came out in December but we could never find the time for all of us to make it and I didn't want to go without HB because he wanted to see it too.
Once I read that it was based off the story The Snow Queen
Plus Kai has a hard time sitting still in the theater so we wanted to wait a bit so hopefully the theater wouldn't be so packed.

We got there on time. No lines, YAY!
Got all hooked up with Power-ade for Kai and Mello Yello for us and a LARGE popcorn to share.
We let Kai pick where we sat so we ended up 4 rows from the screen lol

She started vibrating with excitement as soon as the opening credits rolled and the Disney castle came up on the huge screen. I was right there with her. I absolutely ADORE Disney Movies especially princess movies. I've been hooked since I saw Sleeping Beauty for the first time.

Oh my Gawd was the movie AMAZING. Even HB loved it. His favorite characters are Olaf the adorable snow man and Elsa.
I think my favorite character was Anna or Kristoff.
We both loved the fact that the whole movie wasn't about them finding a man to fix everything and that the act of true love that save Anna was when she protected Elsa from Hans.

All in all this movie is amazing and I can't wait to see it again!