The daily adventures Kai, her Mommy Kat and Daddy Charlie (HB). They spend their days exploring the city they live in, experimenting with arts and crafts, and tackling raising an independent 4 year old.
Kat is also an artist both on paper and skin. Charlie spends his days figuring out what everyone is crying about and wondering where in the hell all this glitter came from.
So I know people are pretty divided on "sexting" some do it, others are against it; sometimes for a good reason.
HB and I sext because we rarely get any alone time unless we're going to bed and then 2 nights out of 7 I'm going to be alone.
SO we sext. I think it helps build the anticipation for when we actually get time to be intimate. Plus its kinda fun ;)
Anyways here is my story of sexting gone wrong that could have gone way worse then it did.
This evening like many Sundays we went to my Dad's for a family dinner. Afterwards I was chilling in the kitchen talking to my Dad while HB and Kai were playing around in the living room watching TV. HB has tonight off and not much homework so I seized the opportunity to send HB a naughty text. I have a pic on my phone of me giving HB head. I thought I would send it to HB with a winky emoji saying "tonight"
Well I forgot the last person I had texted was my Dad. O.o (you can tell where this is going)
Oh my gawd ya'll I sent the picture to my DAD! I would swear on a stack of bibles I had switched it to HB's name but NOOPE it said "Sending to ICE DAD" Fuuuuuucking hell
I immediately panicked but tried to hide it from my parents. Because I knew if they asked what was up I was going to start laughing hysterically and tell them. I suck hard core at lying or keeping anything from my parents.
I snatched up my Dad's phone without thinking. He's like what are you doing with my phone? I don't grab yours.
The first thing I could think of was to tell him "OH I accidentally sent you an emoji meant for Moua (my bestie). You don't have a smart phone so I wanted to see if it would show up"
Thank sweet baby jeebus that he is slightly cell phone inept and he believed me. That text came and oh Christ on a Cracker you could see EVERY detail. I immediately deleted every trace of that picture and stopped sweating.
That probably would have been one of the most AWKWARD moments of my life!
So I have recently discovered that I am Lactose Intolerant. It started during my short pregnancy this past summer. I couldn't eat anything with Dairy in it without terrible stomach pains and gas. Well after the miscarriage things eased off so I just figured it was pregnancy induced and didn't think anymore about it.
My dairy cravings come and go so I can go a month without any cheese or milk and then suddenly its all I want!
Well come October I noticed that my stomach was bothering me quite a bit and that I was super bloated all the time! I cycled through all the causes I could think of and tried a couple elimination diets (gluten, beef, no broccoli) Nada still bloated and uncomfortable. While I was happy I made some healthy changes to our diets and I get to eat broccoli again I was still perplexed on what was going on.
Then one night HB ordered Toppers Pizza for dinner with extra cheese. Omigawd I thought I was going to die! I only made it through one piece and I had to use the bathroom IMMEDIATELY! I felt like I was camped in there all night! My behind was kinda sore too lol
HB and I sat down to figure out what I had ate that day that he hadn't that would do that to me. We came up with zilch! He had ate everything I had that day and he was fine. Suddenly the light bulb went on. DING! Lactose.
So over the next couple days I cut out all dairy products (which was so HARD!) My stomach stopped hurting, I didn't have anymore gas, and I went down a pant size and a half! I have discovered the miracle pill Lactaid though. That thing is AMAZING! When I can't completely control my dairy craving I can pop one of those beauties and eat some ice cream or have a regular yogurt and I'm golden.
I has been so weird adjusting to this! Once I had stopped all dairy consumption now even the smallest trace can make me miserable. So I make sure to carry some of those wonder pills in my purse and wallet for just in-case. I have had some wicked dairy cravings too. I took a pill and chugged half a pint of chocolate milk yesterday. Savage style lol We live in the dairy State so I think we're going to buying stock in the Lactaid pills :)
I'm now experimenting with Almond and Coconut Milk as a replacement and working on my recipes that include dairy.
So we're getting married this October. I've been working on planning this wedding for 2 years. We have everything covered EXCEPT for DJ and I'm still working on the food.
It is absolutely ridiculous how much those 2 things cost. Sweet baby jeebus its like you mention "Wedding" and the price doubles. The next time I have to talk to caterer I'm just going to say "Huge Party"
It blows my mind when I hear how much people have spent on their weddings. I know people that have even taken out a loan to afford the wedding of their "Dreams" and there wasn't a whole lot to it lol I refuse for us to go into debt just to get married.
My other issue at the moment is that I absolutely HATE my dress. I bought it over a year ago before we had to postpone our wedding for the 2nd time when my Grandpa's brain cancer came back. I have looked at it almost everyday for the last year and I detest it. I can't believe we spent money on it. I'm getting ready to post it on Ebay for sale and then I can put the money from that towards a different dress. I'm trying to keep it a stress free, fun wedding but this shit is getting on my nerves.
I recently read a blog post called Top 10 Rules every marriage should live by...gay or straight.
It is a decent blog post with some very good points but the writer I feel could have branched out more on the rules plus some of them strike me as "No brainers." Things like "Don't take your spouse for granted" (which was 9&10) and "Discuss life goals often". Also "Never threaten to leave or throw the "D" word around casually" DUH.
I know that some people don't think things like that are important but seriously I think the majority of people know those 3 are not something you joke with or mess around with... period.
Here is my revised list since I found quite a bit of fault with the other one. (NOTE: I know everyone is different and that what works for us might not work for someone else. Take what you can from it and be happy :) )
1. No Secrets
There are absolutely no secrets between HB and I. Not even little insignificant shit secrets from HS. He is the one person I am completely and wholly honest with no matter. You never know when something no matter how little you think it is could come back and bite you in arse. Trying to hid your past or something about yourself isn't being true to your relationship nor is it fair to your Significant Other.
2. Talk. Talk about EVERYTHING What I mainly mean is communicate about everything! In this day and age with so many different ways to communicate from over the phone, texting, email, Skype, Facebook, smoke signals there really isn't an excuse for not communicating unless you're expecting the other person to become Psychic. Make sure to talk about important things like Kids, Deal Breakers, Expectations, Future Plans, even things that you don't want to think about like what to do if something awful happens to one of you.
3. Do things together that you both enjoy...(the other blog said resist the urge to merge. Bull merge to where you're happy) Make sure to take time to do things you both enjoy and do as much together as you want. Just don't lose yourself in the merge. You don't want to become one of those people that if your SO is gone you don't know what to do with yourself. Honestly those people are no fun to be around. Keep what makes you "YOU" and just season it with what you enjoy together. Example: HB and I enjoy playing video games together but I still maintained my love for fighting games while he enjoys playing solo Strategy games. We both enjoy reading but I like Paranormal stuff while he reads Sci Fi. I enjoy drawing and crafts while he prefers Online Gaming and watching documentaries.
4. Don't air your dirty laundry.
My Grandma used to say this all the time when I was little and I had no clue what she was talking about. When I asked she would just say "Not to feed the gossipers". I was like 6 so still wasn't too sure on things. Now that I'm older I understand what she was talking about. This was one of the keys to her and my grandpa making for 53 years until she passed away. Back her day it was super easy to keep your home life private now not so much. I've lost count of how many people I know that tell EVERYTHING on social media. They blast their partners, parents, kids, siblings, complete strangers all over Facebook, Twitter, MySpace (does anyone even use it?) etc. They do this and then wonder why people stop talking to them, are mad at them or why they get dumped. HB and I hardly ever fight but when we do no one knows about but us. We do use FB and occasionally make posts about each other but they are always positive, loving posts. Occasionally I will vent to my super close group of friends but its usually not about HB but my Mom. I trust those ladies implicitly and know they would never gossip about me. Sometimes its good to have someone that listens but don't go broadcasting it to everyone that will listen.
5. Don't lose the intimacy.
There is more to intimacy in a relationship than just sex. I learned that one after Kai was born and I had a butt full of stitches (hello 4th degree tear). Sex was not an option until close to 12 weeks had passed. I couldn't bear for HB to touch me there without tears. It was starting to become a real issue when we decided sit down and talk about it. HB told me that what he missed more then just sex. He explained that he understood I was in pain and wasn't trying to make me feel bad or pressure me into something I wasn't ready for physically. He explained how he missed the kissing, cuddling and talking too. It wasn't the sex, it was the intimacy. Once we made time to cuddle while Kai was sleeping it made things so much easier and happier. We would cuddle and watch a movie or TV and just talk. The one thing that always blows my mind is when the woman completely cuts the man off from any physical contact and then is actually shocked when he strays. How long can you expect someone to stay in a relationship where there is no intimacy? 6. Don't forget to have FUN
While doing the every routine stuff don't forget to have fun with it. Enjoy doing even the most basic things together. My parents split when I was 13 and have just lately started getting along. I know Kai has helped with some of it but the other thing is they're having fun whether Kai is there or not. They've been playing lots of scrabble together (not much else to do in this polar vortex) and hosting family dinners a couple nights a week between their 2 houses. Everything is better when you're having fun together and laughing. So much is lost when you spend all your time being serious.
7. Remember everyone has a bad days.
No matter how upbeat or optimistic your partner is they are allowed to have bad days. I'm so optimistic most days HB says I should have rainbows shooting out my behind lol Someone being crabby doesn't always mean its your fault. Unless you know you did it.
We have this rule in our home for 2 reasons...
1. My period turns me into a crabby biotch 2. HB admits men have a "Time of the Month" too. I've learned to not take his grumpiness personally unless he tells me its my fault or its obviously my fault i.e accidental blue balling :::sheepish::: He has also learned that sometimes I cannot help being grumpy. I'm not a morning person at ALL so occasionally that makes me crabby. Plus he knows I do not sleep well when he's at work. I wake up to all the weird noises thinking its Kai trying to sneak attack me or something. So I'm usually kinda crabby when I get up on the weekends.
8. Praise frequently and openly After a couple has been together for a while (2+ years) the compliments kinda drop off. Which is understandable in a sense but it also sucks because you start to feel unattractive and unappreciated. The compliments don't have to be long flowing things just short and simple is works just fine. Like HB telling my that my butt looks hot in my yoga pants or me telling him his new beard is a pantie dropper (at least to me lol)
Guys appreciate being complimented too no matter how vehemently they try to deny it. I notice a new skip in HB's step every time I compliment him. Make sure to do it randomly so it truly catches them by surprise and it could be the bright spot in their day. Complimenting also lets your Other Half know that you're not taking them for granted, that you notice when they try something new whether its a new hair do, shirt or recipe. Its the little things that matter most.
Last week we decided to let Kai play hookie for a day. (She's in 4k for 3 hours so she didn't miss much) Things had been kinda hectic around our house for the last month and a half. Kai had been sick plus the holidays PLUS HB picking up a butt load of extra hours between the 3 holidays and on top of that everyone getting back in the swing of going back to school.
So we decided to take a Family day. We packed up and went out to lunch at our favorite Japanese restaurant (yum sushi!) then we grabbed some frozen yogurt (LOVE Orange Leaf) then it was off to the movie theater to catch an early showing of Frozen :)
I had been DYING to see this movie since it came out in December but we could never find the time for all of us to make it and I didn't want to go without HB because he wanted to see it too. Once I read that it was based off the story The Snow Queen Plus Kai has a hard time sitting still in the theater so we wanted to wait a bit so hopefully the theater wouldn't be so packed.
We got there on time. No lines, YAY! Got all hooked up with Power-ade for Kai and Mello Yello for us and a LARGE popcorn to share. We let Kai pick where we sat so we ended up 4 rows from the screen lol
She started vibrating with excitement as soon as the opening credits rolled and the Disney castle came up on the huge screen. I was right there with her. I absolutely ADORE Disney Movies especially princess movies. I've been hooked since I saw Sleeping Beauty for the first time.
Oh my Gawd was the movie AMAZING. Even HB loved it. His favorite characters are Olaf the adorable snow man and Elsa. I think my favorite character was Anna or Kristoff. We both loved the fact that the whole movie wasn't about them finding a man to fix everything and that the act of true love that save Anna was when she protected Elsa from Hans.
All in all this movie is amazing and I can't wait to see it again!
I actually had to give this one some serious thought lol I had never had to narrow down my favorites to just 5! I think I about drove HB nuts with my bouncing ideas and characters off him for a day while I contemplated. I know its not important but I've been gaming since I was 6 so there were a lot of characters for me to page through.
Here is my list of fav characters...
1. Spyro the Dragon. And I don't mean the new Spyro from the Skylanders games. I mean the Spyro from the very first PS1 game. I was hooked the instant I played a demo of it. I also love Sparx the Dragonfly. Especially in Year of the Dragon with the little side quests where you get to fly around as Sparx. I still have my PS1 and all 3 games for it so that I can introduce my daughter to them when she's a little older. :) I also have some of the ones they released for the PS2 also. I really wish they would release a collection of the for the PS3.
2. Taki from Soul Caliber. I first discovered Taki when I played Soul Edge in the arcade in our local Mall when I was young. I cycled through all the characters but with Taki I could kick everyone's ass. I loved her spin moves and her sweet daggers Rekki Maru and Mekki Maru. I really missed her in the latest Soul Caliber V. I hope they bring her back as a playable character in the next game.
3. Luigi from the Mario Bros. I always ended up playing Luigi growing up because I played Super Mario Bros with my Mom or older cousins. I always thought Luigi was under appreciated and then when I was a tween I watched the Mario Bros Movie. I developed a huge crush on the young John Leguizamo who played Luigi lol
4. Crash Bandicoot. Once again he was one of my first loves with Platforming gaming. Being a only child I preferred the single player games since I generally didn't have anyone to play with. I loved the graphics and scenery on the games for PS1 and he quirky, funny character was great to play. I thought the Tiki Mask was awesome too.
5. Mya from Borderlands 2. Omg I freaking love this character. I have played through as the others and none compare to her. The closest is Zero but I still love Mya better. She is a kick ass siren that wants to know where she came from. I love her Phase Lock move and that she's so versatile.
So with everything being so scattered with Christmas Vacation and HB pulling a ton of extra hours I totally didn't realize that "that time of the month" was due. I'm lucky that Aunt Flo is always prompt unless I'm pregnant lol
I had like 3 tampons in the whole house and those were in the bottom of my purse! I got lucky that we had to take Kai to the dentist and we stopped by Walgreen's. Kai had passed out in the backseat like all little kids do and I REALLY didn't want to wake her up so I caved and asked HB to get me some tampons. 1st time in 5 years that I asked him to get me tampons! I knew it wouldn't be an issue I just prefer to get my feminine products my self lol He agreed with no sighs, groans or other noises. He even asked what kind! Brownie point for him lol So I told him "Get either Tampax or OB ones. I hate Kotex. I need some Lite, Regular and a small box of Super." HB "Ok got it. Do you want some chocolate while I'm in there" "Oh I love you" "I'll take that as a yes"
He ran in while I talked to my Dad on the phone. He wanted to know how Kai's appointment went. HB came out a lot faster then I was expecting him though that's normal. The man is a speed shopper.
I noticed he had 3 bags! Full! He climbed into the Jeep and started the motor. Me "What all did you buy? I thought we just needed kids Tylenol and tampons." HB "Well I got you Dew and some peanut butter M&M's. I got the Tylenol, myself some gummie bears and 5 boxes of tampons." "How many?" HB started laughing "5" "Why so many?! I don't go through that many and where am I going to store all those?" HB "Well I have no problem getting you tampons but I want it to be a long time before I have to do that again. I wanted to make sure you were covered!"
Welp I'm not complaining and I did find room for all of them since he got half Tampax and half OB. Those OB boxes are little and easy to store.
